How to Heal from a Fear of Abandonment in Relationships

Fear of intimacy is generally a social phobia and anxiety disorder resulting in difficulty forming close relationships with another person. The term can also refer to a scale on a psychometric test, or a type of adult in attachment theory psychology. This fear is also defined as “the inhibited capacity of an individual, because of anxiety, to exchange thought and feelings of personal significance with another individual who is highly valued”.

People with this fear are anxious about or afraid of intimate relationships.

The fear of abandonment, though not officially a phobia, results in certain sudden and traumatic abandonment, such as losing someone to violence or tragedy.

If you have ever dealt with someone that has serious issues, such as mental illness or a past damaging relationship, you know that it is not always an easy task. You have to go through the same conversation repeatedly with the constant fear of being pulled away, or too close. One of the hardest things to know is what the other persons may need. At this point, the new person has to struggle to prove beyond a doubt that he or she is different. Initially, this may not be expressed; however, they need a lot of convincing that you are different from the people who hurt them in the past.

She was so tired of begging people to love her. If they deal with anxiety or abandonment issues, they will form an assumption and fear the worst. It is an inner battle, that is hard for them to control. It brings the sense of insecurity when they are in any relationship.