I am single and in my 70s. Should I have an affair with a married man?

My boyfriend usually calls me on the dot of 5. Leo is married and in lockdown with his wife and two children. Leo and I are both writers.

Neena Gupta’s advice: ‘Just don’t get involved with a married man.’ to her; many a woman have been in relationships with married men. IAS officer and single mother, Sumita Dawra, also appears to share a similar logic.

Advice: Under the circumstances, you should take a break and let him finish his obligation to his terminally ill wife — if she is, indeed, terminally ill. A few months ago I met a man who contacted me on social media. After meeting him, I realized he was married, but he was not happy. Unfortunately, his wife has a terminal illness, and he feels obligated to care for her until it is over.

We formed a very close bond as we talked and soon realized we are in love and want to be together. Because of her illness and lack of support from her immediate family, we agreed that he needs to fulfill his obligation to her, and I will wait for him. We have continued talking and spending any time we can together, even though her care always takes first priority. When she found out about our relationship, she was very upset.

She has left him many times in the past because of wrongdoings on both their parts, but since her illness she has come to rely on him for everything. She claims to have deeper feelings for him since her illness, but he says it’s just a fear of being alone.